Lack of morals in american teen dating
When you have autonomy, you have the freedom to act out of your own volition, to "own" an action yourself.Teens are more likely to feel autonomous when they feel successful managing a part of their lives, when they're allowed freedom of choice and action, when they're given responsibility, and/or when they see that their actions are meaningful and that they matter.Though I still view most relationships between older men and younger women with suspicion, I now have a more nuanced view.As for “morality” — I'm an atheist, and look at the world through an “ethical” rather than a “moral” lens.
It's just that what counts for respect depends on the context.
Once in my 40s, I first did what many men do — I was attracted to the women I had been attracted to when I was last single, and initially dated a lot of women in their mid-to-late 20s. I had modest career success, but nothing close to what anyone would call “wealth.” I could easily take women out to a nice dinner or two, but when excitedly asked, “Will you fly us to Abiza next weekend?
” (a question a young woman literally asked me when on a second date), the answer was, of course, “No.” There was a veritable endless line of beautiful younger women eager to accept an invitation to dine at a nice restaurant, but without the second home in the Hamptons, or the Porsche (the expectation most young attractive women have of dating an older man), there were few second and even more rarely third dates.
If you have a teenager, you're probably familiar with the feeling of being disrespected: Your teen rolls their eyes, sighs deeply, no longer laughs at your jokes, goes straight to their room and closes the door, or seems to argue with you all the time.
You feel triggered: Your once-compliant child is becoming a stranger. You may sense that some of this disrespect is related to growing up, to your teen's desire to run their own life, make their own decisions.