Dating people who look the same
Forget the obsession with band T-shirts or the inability to play Monopoly without screaming; you may not have worked out with your ex simply because they weren't that genetically compatible with you.We subconsciously want to pass on our own genes, and your chances of having a kid similar to you is bolstered with somebody who looks like you.“And put your phone away, so it doesn’t appear you’re ready to confirm another date before dessert is served.”The dating game should end when you’re ready to be exclusive with someone, Spira says.You should avoid logging onto dating apps or browsing other potentials after making this decision.“If the relationship doesn’t work out, you can always reactivate your profile again.(Unfortunately, there's been little-to-no research on how this trend plays out in mixed-race couples.)The "facial likeness" study from the now-late psychologist Robert Zajonc of the University of Michigan in 1987 is still the benchmark for people who worry that they're developing their partner's scowl.Zajonc and his team asked volunteers to match photographs of men and women based on their facial similarity, and found that couples who'd been married for 25 years were overwhelmingly paired together.It is a truth universally acknowledged that couples which sidestep their individuality and become One Combined Being are the most irritating people at every cocktail party.
Does the happiness make the facial similarity, or vice versa?
We've heard that we're likely to settle down with people who look quite similar to us — even if we casually date people who look different.
Opposites may attract (Kendrick Lamar's never wrong, right? While we seem to like a bit of difference in a partner's character, when it comes to faces, it's usually all us, all the time. Why would people start to morph slowly into their partners?
One thing's for certain, though: Just because you look similar doesn't mean you'll start to think the same way.
A 2010 study showed that people who'd been married for 40 years were just as definitively different in their personalities as they had been at the start of their marriages, even if they now shared habits, homes, and mortgages. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?