Dating a man who is not divorced
At the time this annoyed me, and I wondered if he was as into me as I hoped.
One afternoon I had been on the beach since after the morning general session, but I had not heard from my boyfriend all day.
It was also a red flag that my suspicions were right – we didn’t share the same level of interest in each other.
When the night was over I went to his hotel room to see if he was there. Then he said, “Here I am a 34-year-old man at a singles’ retreat.” That’s when I knew that dating someone who had been married was more complicated than dating someone who had not.
There are different opinions about how long it takes. In the story I told above, my boyfriend had been divorced for about three years and yet he was still hurting.
Participating in professional counseling, mentoring, and support groups, ideally Christian-based, shows a man’s humility, maturity, and leadership.
He understands the seriousness of divorce, and he’s taking steps to heal and grow emotionally and spiritually.
However, it’s important that he begins this process he starts dating again.
Even if it’s to discern marriage for a future time when he can remarry, can he commit to you the attention needed for discerning marriage?
It takes time to heal from a divorce whether or not the divorce was a person’s choice. And of course the time depends on the circumstances and what was done after the divorce to heal from it properly.